Swimming in Debt

D.E.B.T:  Do Every Bit it Takes

You must develop a plan to remove yourself from monetary debt.   Debt can ruin your quality of life by bringing much unneeded stress and preoccupation with worrying.   Many people think that debt is about not having enough money to pay their bills.  Debt is a result from a state of mind that many people adopt in their lives.   There have been many people who have won the lotto and still end up in debt.  How could this be?  They have millions of dollars now, even if family members want some of the money there should still be some funds left over.  It’s not the money, it’s the mindset.  I now understand that the act of spending money came from our thoughts and thoughts control our realities.  Let me explain. Click Here!

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Mr. Ambition Celebrity Analysis of Kanye West

Celebrity Analysis of Kanye West

The infamous Kanye West:   the scene stealing, loud mouth, confrontational cry baby that the media projects him to be.  His last incident was at the VMA’s where he stated that Beyonce should have won the female music video award and embarrassed Taylor Swift.  Kanye West told the former president that he didn’t care about black people.  Kanye West smashed the camera of a Paparazzi when he told him to stop taking pictures.  Does anyone remember the episode of Punk’d where he ripped the camera from a fake official who told him he couldn’t film his video and was going to take his film?  This has solidified his place in asshole history, right?  Well for me it actually made me think about the various incidents in the media and reports that I have heard about Kanye and I don’t feel the same way about the general consensus on Kanye West.  Why does Kanye West do this repeatedly over and over?  Well I have a theory and opinion.Click Here!

Working on the Networking

Power of Networking

Networking is the act of building relationships with other individuals who may share similar thoughts and goals. One of the active forms in which we network is through meeting people and talking face to face. Many times we go out to coffee houses, hold seminars,  visit nightclubs, hold dinner parties, and community meetings to network with other individuals.  Speaking about your thoughts and feeling is very important in networking situations.  Why? Because the average individual is not a mind readers. There are many ways to state when you are not pleased or do not agree with another individual.  You should always state you point in a group situation even if brief because people naturally form assumptions and they can be incorrect.  Like the saying go's people who form assumptions can make an ass out of themselves but those assess can influence other people in a group to think along the same wavelength if your position is not stated clearly to others.

Group Dynamics

What is Group Dynamics? Group dynamics is process of interaction between people for a common goal in a shared space and at a shared time. Anyone in a situation with two or more individuals is considered a group.

When I meet individuals for the first time I don't usually talk much. Other individuals reading this blog may be similar to me or not. I can usually attribute my silence to discomfort and unfamiliarity of the situation but if you are present you are communicating. In a group most people assume that you have a connection with that cause, regardless of the reason for the meeting.  Something that I have observed in certain individuals is that if they do not talk, they feel like they do not communicate anything. People who don't speak also communicate information. In group dynamics a person that doesn't speak is called an outlier. Outliers are people who choose not to participate and observe the natural process of interaction. People who observe and do not participate in a group situation have assumptions made about them by others in the group.  These assumptions can be positive or negative but it is better for you to state at least your positive intentions for the benefit of the group. 

Speak or hold your Peace

I suggests that you always try to present your most honest opinions in a networking situation. Honesty is a quality that is wins over many individuals in group situations and in life. If your opinions are stated in a polite manner most of the time they will be considered in a decision making process or present you as a person who is assertive and forthcoming. Silence may be easier for you but people who understand your position usually feel more comfortable with you. Comfort with another individuals can lead to positive feelings and people enjoy networking with people who are honest, assertive and makes them feel comfortable. Now go and build those relationships and make sure you let them know where you stand!

Here is link to the E-book Law of Networking that is a great source to taking certain steps to networking with the best!

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Eyeballing Me

What you looking at Willis?
Sometimes we stare at people and we don’t mean to be rude. Sometimes the other person we are looking at has something about them that we can not explain. Our eyes take in a multitude of information everyday. So much so that every night our brain has to fire off impulses in the form of dreams so it will not overload itself. Have you ever seen something during the day and you had a dream about it that night? It was probably an object, person, or situation that really captured your attention. Your eyes are how you take in information and your brain processes the little nuances so you can interpret your world according to your experiences.Click Here!
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The Loner: Loneliness vs. being alone.

Loneliness is something that everyone probably experiences at some point. Some people need more social interaction than others and hate to be alone. Are loneliness and being alone are two different feelings all together? Well I know that I can be in a room with ten people and I still feel lonely. So what makes us feel lonely? I have experienced that being lonely comes from someone not identifying with my way of thinking. When I am by myself I am rarely lonely, although I love to spend time with my friends and family. Want to know the difference between loneliness and being alone, ask a Loner. A loose definition of loners by most people are individuals who do activities by them self and are hard to station in one spot. I gather from my observations and personal experiences that the Loner’s mindset is to explore their environment until they find like minds and activities. Loners also usually have an internal dialogue that they wish to not divulge to other individuals because of the polarizing nature of the subject matter in which they keep to them self. Loners can be very charismatic when they arrive on scene making everyone in the presence feel good for the moment, other types of loners sit or stand in a corner keeping to them self with an occasional phrase acknowledging their presence. Whichever type of loner you are or meet it’s ok to be who you are. For individuals who are loners you can share with others how you feel, but most people shy away from very heavy emotions when they first meet you. It would be wise to divulge your feelings and thoughts in small doses. For people that know loners, try to cater your conversation to the individual likes and dislikes even though you may not agree with anything they say. You may find a very insightful person with a well of information from all the places and activities they have engaged in during their knowledge seeking escapades. Remember the Loner is not weird, just different! They may be able to even give you tips on how to be alone without being lonely. What do you think and feel about loners? Comment Below.Click Here!
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Mr. Ambition's Celebrity Analysis of Eminem

Transference Anger of Eminem

An example of a person using transference is the artist Eminem. When he first came out with his previous albums, The Slim Shady LP and Marshall Mathers LP, he was saying derogatory statements about homosexuals. Many individuals, the media, and politicians were upset with what he was saying about this group of people. Most people believed that he was an immoral person and unfairly attacked a group of people suffering enough from discrimination. Some thought that his homophobia came from the fact that he was himself experiencing homosexual feelings and was very uncomfortable with these thoughts. Transference is the redirection of feelings and desires and especially of those unconsciously retained from childhood toward a new object or person. What came to light in Eminem’s last album, The Relapse, was that his misogynistic and homophobic lyrics stemmed from the fact that he was molested and abused by his mother’s boyfriend. Eminem even states that music was his therapy because he couldn’t verbalize some of the negative feelings that still remained from being violated, neglected, and mistreated during his childhood and adolescence. Should you go and make offensive songs about all your traumatic situations? no, but the idea is, and what Eminem did, was channel many of his negative feelings into his talents and art form which although garnered controversy probably help lessen his anxiety in dealing with past sexual abuse.Click Here!

A Case of the Phonies

Phony Baloney

Have you ever encountered and individual that you thought was phony? I have and it wasn’t so much that they were phony but you could tell through their mannerisms and facial expression that they are not being honest with them self. To tell the truth, I am not always honest with myself but more so than not I try to present my true feelings to most individuals that I care for. So it made me think that maybe we are all phony when we are at are most uncomfortable.Click Here!

Cancer: The Begginings of Mental Growing Pains

Cancer: The Beginning of Growing Pains

That word Cancer, the word that no one wants to mention when it hits home. Cancer brings about two parallel growing pains. The physical pain of the cancer growing inside the individual plus the emotional pains experienced by everyone in connection with the individual. I want to focus on the emotional pains that Cancer can conjure. If you haven’t been a person who has been close to someone that has had cancer or have had cancer yourself you are a blessed individuals. But I am assuming, and can guesstimate that at least 80 percent America’s population have a cancer story. Cancer does a number on us mentally mostly through shock, disbelief, bewilderment, fear, and sadness. One thing I can say about cancer is that anyone who has encountered the disease will grow emotionally through the diverse, intrinsically complicated, and cathartic experiences that it brings.Click Here!

Ambition: How did you lose it and how do you get it back?

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What is ambition and how did you lose it?

I for one am full of ambition because I am writing this article, yes? Probably not! At times I have really seemed to lack ambition but I feel that I pulled through these dark times. Lacking ambition is similar to lacking motivation. Yes, we have all hit that brick wall and just don’t want to do anything. How did this happen? Where did it come from? How do we get back to someone who feels like they have a purpose? These are serious questions that require serious insight and reflection. So how can we get ambition back if we are not even sure what it is. If you have come to this page and are reading this article I hate to tell you that you already have ambition. The act of searching for a way to find out how to regain your ambition is that very thing that you think you have lost. The only conundrum now is how do you take this ambition and use it to accomplish what you want in life. Click Here!l